growing future leaders: learning to find your voice

growing future leaders: learning to find your voice

I’ve spent much of my life trying desperately to avoid conflict. Not wanting to create a problem.  Not offering a solution.  Not giving an opinion. Not making decisions.  Not standing up for a cause. Not having a voice. Maybe it’s the guilt that I too often associated with the effect of my choices upon others, […]

stop squeezing God into your box

stop squeezing God into your box

I only recently realized how much time we, me included, spend boxing up God. And I don’t really think that it isn’t because we don’t know better.  Because surely we do know better. And I don’t really think that it is because we are consciously making an effort to smoosh the Creator of the entire […]

stop adding to the noise: a better way to be heard

stop adding to the noise: a better way to be heard

  It can be really hard to hear through noise, chaos, and utter confusion. It can be distracting to face unanswered questions and upsetting statements. It can be impossible to discern one voice from another in the cacophony.  Regardless of the tone, the demeanor, the purpose of the voices. Especially when everyone is shouting at […]

the conversations we should be having regarding Trump’s sex talks

the conversations we should be having regarding Trump’s sex talks

Anyone who knows me well probably knows that just typing the title of this post is making me simultaneously blush and feel nauseated. I never thought I’d be thanking Donald Trump for anything, much less writing about him and sex in the same post, as utterly appalled as I am about his talk and behavior […]

stop hiding: part 1 – what good is hiding in fear

stop hiding: part 1 – what good is hiding in fear

It’s time to stop hiding. It’s time to stop hiding in the darkness, away from the Fear that can so easily entangle and control and manipulate strong hearts and souls into thinking that there is no Hope. It’s time to stop hiding from the darkness that so quickly envelops our lives when mass tragedy and […]

seemingly insignificant: planting seeds of love in rocky soil

seemingly insignificant: planting seeds of love in rocky soil

I suppose that there comes a time in everyone’s life when they wonder if they’re significant.  Whether his or her life actually means something to someone. Whether or not there is some unique contribution that his or her life offers that may be of value. In my experience, there are so many more days where […]

learning to get up again: finding life after abuse

learning to get up again: finding life after abuse

Abuse. “Abuse” was a hard word, a weighty word, to hear.  Harsh and unflinching in the bright lights of that quasi-meeting room, and “abuse” wasn’t really the word I expected, much less wanted. If anything, it was almost like I could feel THAT word dangling in the air, like it was suspended in time and […]

focusing on the forest more than the trees: loving those with mental illness

focusing on the forest more than the trees: loving those with mental illness

There are just too many times where we cannot see the forest for the trees. Urban Dictionary explains this phrase as being too focused on the details to get the bigger perspective of the picture, too close to the situation to recognize that there’s more to be seen. What if we don’t notice the forest because […]

lessons from the delivery room: loving broken hearts anywhere

lessons from the delivery room: loving broken hearts anywhere

  We stopped at the bank on the drive into the city.  I remember waiting in line while the armored car picked up its daily money collection.  I remember barely being able to contain the impatience and excitement. After we parked and walked through the cold, blustery winter afternoon, we rode the elevator to our […]

why holidays are hard: loving when love was lost

why holidays are hard: loving when love was lost

Holidays are hard.  Really hard.  And they really don’t seem to be getting any easier or less complicated. I’m not trying to be a Grinch or a Scrooge, honest!  I really do like giving gifts and trying to be thoughtful about giving them, rather than just buying anything and shoving it in some wrapping paper.  […]