finding hope when you’re wading through another’s mental illness

finding hope when you’re wading through another’s mental illness

There is this feeling of quicksand that slowly enfolds ankles, that creeps and grips calves and tugs down.  Sometimes harder than others.  A drowning of sorts. Struggling is futile. It only enrages the stuff and causes the tugging to yank harder, faster.  Until legs are trapped and torso is next. Yet acceptance feels more futile. […]

growing future leaders: raising up faith for all of our kids

growing future leaders: raising up faith for all of our kids

When we look carefully, really carefully, at the world around us, what is it that we are really, truly seeing? Are we so wrapped up in the problems inside our homes and our marriages and our families to see anything beyond the blurred vision of heartache and shattered dreams?  Or are we using our homes as […]

growing future leaders: raising up integrity

growing future leaders: raising up integrity

Fairness is often a battleground of epic proportions in sports and competitions.  How could it not be? Coaches selecting players based on skill or strategy to take each play call and transform it into the magical moment of athletic domination. Kids of all ages striving to make it to the major leagues or just to […]

growing future leaders: raising up grace

growing future leaders: raising up grace

  Growing up, I was anything but graceful.  Long legs, wobbly ankles, permed-poodle bobbed hair with awful bangs, and giant round glasses.  Nevermind the really ugly clothes of the 90s. Didn’t know how to fit in, wasn’t sure I wanted to anyway, trying to navigate hormones and school and not being completely dorky in every way possible. […]

growing future leaders: raising up humility

growing future leaders: raising up humility

Our world is growing increasingly more bold, almost daily. Gunmen walking into movie theaters and schools and just about anywhere.  Aiming.  Or not.  Killing.  Maiming.  Scarring for life.  With little cause for pause. Terrorists preying on fear and false senses of security.  Getting their agendas right too loudly and too effectively.  Brash.  Ruthless.  On a […]

growing future leaders: raising up honesty

growing future leaders: raising up honesty

Good has to be gleaned and shared from even the most frustrating and despairing of situations. Otherwise, we can miss God. We are living in a time where there is so much mudslinging in political battlegrounds, on TV shows, in our neighborhoods, on our streets… everywhere.  It can feel like a non-stop barrage of negativity and criticism. […]

stop hiding: part 3 – what can be done

stop hiding: part 3 – what can be done

The mass murder in Orlando this past weekend created a ripple effect of its horror upon the LGBTQ community and their families, as well as upon the rest of us who, if not related to the victims, look on in shocked fear at how easily and quickly such a tragedy of huge proportions can occur, even […]

stop hiding: part 2 – the crisis that lurks within

stop hiding: part 2 – the crisis that lurks within

The simple fact of the matter is that there is a crisis that has been building under the fragile skin of society that has barely been addressed, much less publicly voiced.  Because too many of us are too afraid to say anything out loud.  I’ve been one of those people too, but can’t be any longer. […]

stop hiding: part 1 – what good is hiding in fear

stop hiding: part 1 – what good is hiding in fear

It’s time to stop hiding. It’s time to stop hiding in the darkness, away from the Fear that can so easily entangle and control and manipulate strong hearts and souls into thinking that there is no Hope. It’s time to stop hiding from the darkness that so quickly envelops our lives when mass tragedy and […]

focusing on the forest more than the trees: loving those with mental illness

focusing on the forest more than the trees: loving those with mental illness

There are just too many times where we cannot see the forest for the trees. Urban Dictionary explains this phrase as being too focused on the details to get the bigger perspective of the picture, too close to the situation to recognize that there’s more to be seen. What if we don’t notice the forest because […]