tearing down the walls of fear: loving first

tearing down the walls of fear: loving first

My three young daughters are still big fans of the Disney movie Frozen.  So the music is often floating around our house daily, with little girl voices belting out the lyrics and little feet twirling around the furniture.  It’s amazing how quickly the words get stuck in my head and refuse to budge.  But that’s not entirely bad. […]

learning to get up again: finding life after abuse

learning to get up again: finding life after abuse

Abuse. “Abuse” was a hard word, a weighty word, to hear.  Harsh and unflinching in the bright lights of that quasi-meeting room, and “abuse” wasn’t really the word I expected, much less wanted. If anything, it was almost like I could feel THAT word dangling in the air, like it was suspended in time and […]

focusing on the forest more than the trees: loving those with mental illness

focusing on the forest more than the trees: loving those with mental illness

There are just too many times where we cannot see the forest for the trees. Urban Dictionary explains this phrase as being too focused on the details to get the bigger perspective of the picture, too close to the situation to recognize that there’s more to be seen. What if we don’t notice the forest because […]

lessons from the delivery room: loving broken hearts anywhere

lessons from the delivery room: loving broken hearts anywhere

  We stopped at the bank on the drive into the city.  I remember waiting in line while the armored car picked up its daily money collection.  I remember barely being able to contain the impatience and excitement. After we parked and walked through the cold, blustery winter afternoon, we rode the elevator to our […]

why holidays are hard: loving when love was lost

why holidays are hard: loving when love was lost

Holidays are hard.  Really hard.  And they really don’t seem to be getting any easier or less complicated. I’m not trying to be a Grinch or a Scrooge, honest!  I really do like giving gifts and trying to be thoughtful about giving them, rather than just buying anything and shoving it in some wrapping paper.  […]

love anyway.

love anyway.

Too often we see what we want to see in other people. We spend so much time focusing on the actions and appearances and choices of others, rather than on the love of God and the reflection of God in each person.  It’s so easy to get distracted by emotional reactions or by physical characteristics, […]

a love worth keeping

a love worth keeping

So listen, it’s Valentine’s Day again.  That day of romance and surprise and flowers and chocolate and maybe dinner out. Well, either I’ve been cheated out of these opportunities for Husband to express his adoring affection for me for the past many years of marriage and the 3 previous years of dating, or it really […]