when love means loss

when love means loss

I think sometimes that the purest example of love comes in the form of loss. There is such breadth and depth to the very word LOVE, and yet it can so rarely be fully realized until it is at least threatened and at most lost. My family and I recently attended a funeral viewing of […]

love freely. love vulnerably. love always.

love freely.  love vulnerably.  love always.

Sometimes, at the end of a long day, there just isn’t much left.  The reserves are drained, patience is depleted, energy is just about shot.  And it’s all you can do to crawl into bed and let it all go. Sometimes it seems as if just surviving every day is more than enough of a […]

the quiet miracles: finding hope for the new year

the quiet miracles: finding hope for the new year

As another year draws to a close, too many mixed emotions bubble up in all of us. We are all rejoicing over someone or something in some way. We are all hurting and mourning something or someone. We are all worried about something or someone. We are all wondering what a new year might bring […]

finding hope when you’re wading through another’s mental illness

finding hope when you’re wading through another’s mental illness

There is this feeling of quicksand that slowly enfolds ankles, that creeps and grips calves and tugs down.  Sometimes harder than others.  A drowning of sorts. Struggling is futile. It only enrages the stuff and causes the tugging to yank harder, faster.  Until legs are trapped and torso is next. Yet acceptance feels more futile. […]

facing the rapids when you can’t remember how to swim

facing the rapids when you can’t remember how to swim

Years ago, I was a college kid and spent a summer as a camp counselor at one of my most favorite places – a Christian adventure camp set in scenically stunning mountains where zip lines and 30-foot-high ropes courses, subterranean caves and 50-foot climbing towers, and tons of sports and crafts and play await.  And […]

finding thanks beyond thanksgiving

finding thanks beyond thanksgiving

Sometimes, we arrive at a time when we are almost required to be thankful.  Today may have been one of those days for you. It can feel like this mandated thankfulness must extend to every facet of our lives.  Even when we don’t feel like it.  And especially when we struggle to find it. As […]

beyond cranberries and Christmas commercials: seeking comfort when holidays are hard

beyond cranberries and Christmas commercials: seeking comfort when holidays are hard

Memories trickle into mind.  One by one by two by ten. Eventually flooding every nook and cranny until the torrent of emotions is almost palpable. Guilt.  Anger.  Frustration.  Anxiety.  Sorrow.  Confusion.  Desperation.  Skepticism. Until sometimes, heart hardening is too quick to happen. Especially when more memories are created and added to the movie reel daily.  Healthy […]

ask, seek, knock

ask, seek, knock

It has been a long week.  Frankly, I haven’t wanted to take on the fears and the fury that have been unleashed in far too many places, far too easily, far too loudly.  There has always been more than enough anger to go around, and this week has been unparalleled in extremeness, at least in […]

growing future leaders: raising up faith for all of our kids

growing future leaders: raising up faith for all of our kids

When we look carefully, really carefully, at the world around us, what is it that we are really, truly seeing? Are we so wrapped up in the problems inside our homes and our marriages and our families to see anything beyond the blurred vision of heartache and shattered dreams?  Or are we using our homes as […]

growing future leaders: raising up integrity

growing future leaders: raising up integrity

Fairness is often a battleground of epic proportions in sports and competitions.  How could it not be? Coaches selecting players based on skill or strategy to take each play call and transform it into the magical moment of athletic domination. Kids of all ages striving to make it to the major leagues or just to […]