growing future leaders: learning to find your voice

growing future leaders: learning to find your voice

I’ve spent much of my life trying desperately to avoid conflict. Not wanting to create a problem.  Not offering a solution.  Not giving an opinion. Not making decisions.  Not standing up for a cause. Not having a voice. Maybe it’s the guilt that I too often associated with the effect of my choices upon others, […]

when love means loss

when love means loss

I think sometimes that the purest example of love comes in the form of loss. There is such breadth and depth to the very word LOVE, and yet it can so rarely be fully realized until it is at least threatened and at most lost. My family and I recently attended a funeral viewing of […]

taking life’s lemons: when threats of suffering loom large and break you hard

taking life’s lemons: when threats of suffering loom large and break you hard

I have to think that there are times in every single person’s life when they walk to the edge of heart-stopping anxiety and wild-eyed fear over the unknown that lies ahead. Perhaps the precipice is the craziest of thrill rides at an amusement park, but at least that one is temporary. Perhaps the crag is […]

the quiet miracles: finding hope for the new year

the quiet miracles: finding hope for the new year

As another year draws to a close, too many mixed emotions bubble up in all of us. We are all rejoicing over someone or something in some way. We are all hurting and mourning something or someone. We are all worried about something or someone. We are all wondering what a new year might bring […]

finding hope when you’re wading through another’s mental illness

finding hope when you’re wading through another’s mental illness

There is this feeling of quicksand that slowly enfolds ankles, that creeps and grips calves and tugs down.  Sometimes harder than others.  A drowning of sorts. Struggling is futile. It only enrages the stuff and causes the tugging to yank harder, faster.  Until legs are trapped and torso is next. Yet acceptance feels more futile. […]

facing the rapids when you can’t remember how to swim

facing the rapids when you can’t remember how to swim

Years ago, I was a college kid and spent a summer as a camp counselor at one of my most favorite places – a Christian adventure camp set in scenically stunning mountains where zip lines and 30-foot-high ropes courses, subterranean caves and 50-foot climbing towers, and tons of sports and crafts and play await.  And […]

at the end of the road: finding hope after loss

at the end of the road: finding hope after loss

Some of us spend far too much of our lives at the end of its journey. We have far more experience with loss and pain than we ever thought humanly possible. We have encountered far too many tragedies and abandonment than we ever expected. And it is almost unbearable sometimes. The other day, my husband […]

finding thanks beyond thanksgiving

finding thanks beyond thanksgiving

Sometimes, we arrive at a time when we are almost required to be thankful.  Today may have been one of those days for you. It can feel like this mandated thankfulness must extend to every facet of our lives.  Even when we don’t feel like it.  And especially when we struggle to find it. As […]

the conversations we should be having regarding Trump’s sex talks

the conversations we should be having regarding Trump’s sex talks

Anyone who knows me well probably knows that just typing the title of this post is making me simultaneously blush and feel nauseated. I never thought I’d be thanking Donald Trump for anything, much less writing about him and sex in the same post, as utterly appalled as I am about his talk and behavior […]

finding balance in the unexpected

finding balance in the unexpected

There are probably simple, easy answers to many of the questions of what to do when you experience the unexpected, how to react, what to say… I’m not usually very good with simplicity and too often make everything about as complicated as it could be. Not sure why… Because it keeps life challenging? Thankfully, God gave […]