when love means loss

when love means loss

I think sometimes that the purest example of love comes in the form of loss. There is such breadth and depth to the very word LOVE, and yet it can so rarely be fully realized until it is at least threatened and at most lost. My family and I recently attended a funeral viewing of […]

love freely. love vulnerably. love always.

love freely.  love vulnerably.  love always.

Sometimes, at the end of a long day, there just isn’t much left.  The reserves are drained, patience is depleted, energy is just about shot.  And it’s all you can do to crawl into bed and let it all go. Sometimes it seems as if just surviving every day is more than enough of a […]

taking life’s lemons: when threats of suffering loom large and break you hard

taking life’s lemons: when threats of suffering loom large and break you hard

I have to think that there are times in every single person’s life when they walk to the edge of heart-stopping anxiety and wild-eyed fear over the unknown that lies ahead. Perhaps the precipice is the craziest of thrill rides at an amusement park, but at least that one is temporary. Perhaps the crag is […]

stop adding to the noise: a better way to be heard

stop adding to the noise: a better way to be heard

  It can be really hard to hear through noise, chaos, and utter confusion. It can be distracting to face unanswered questions and upsetting statements. It can be impossible to discern one voice from another in the cacophony.  Regardless of the tone, the demeanor, the purpose of the voices. Especially when everyone is shouting at […]

the quiet miracles: finding hope for the new year

the quiet miracles: finding hope for the new year

As another year draws to a close, too many mixed emotions bubble up in all of us. We are all rejoicing over someone or something in some way. We are all hurting and mourning something or someone. We are all worried about something or someone. We are all wondering what a new year might bring […]

finding hope when you’re wading through another’s mental illness

finding hope when you’re wading through another’s mental illness

There is this feeling of quicksand that slowly enfolds ankles, that creeps and grips calves and tugs down.  Sometimes harder than others.  A drowning of sorts. Struggling is futile. It only enrages the stuff and causes the tugging to yank harder, faster.  Until legs are trapped and torso is next. Yet acceptance feels more futile. […]

facing the rapids when you can’t remember how to swim

facing the rapids when you can’t remember how to swim

Years ago, I was a college kid and spent a summer as a camp counselor at one of my most favorite places – a Christian adventure camp set in scenically stunning mountains where zip lines and 30-foot-high ropes courses, subterranean caves and 50-foot climbing towers, and tons of sports and crafts and play await.  And […]

at the end of the road: finding hope after loss

at the end of the road: finding hope after loss

Some of us spend far too much of our lives at the end of its journey. We have far more experience with loss and pain than we ever thought humanly possible. We have encountered far too many tragedies and abandonment than we ever expected. And it is almost unbearable sometimes. The other day, my husband […]

finding thanks beyond thanksgiving

finding thanks beyond thanksgiving

Sometimes, we arrive at a time when we are almost required to be thankful.  Today may have been one of those days for you. It can feel like this mandated thankfulness must extend to every facet of our lives.  Even when we don’t feel like it.  And especially when we struggle to find it. As […]

beyond cranberries and Christmas commercials: seeking comfort when holidays are hard

beyond cranberries and Christmas commercials: seeking comfort when holidays are hard

Memories trickle into mind.  One by one by two by ten. Eventually flooding every nook and cranny until the torrent of emotions is almost palpable. Guilt.  Anger.  Frustration.  Anxiety.  Sorrow.  Confusion.  Desperation.  Skepticism. Until sometimes, heart hardening is too quick to happen. Especially when more memories are created and added to the movie reel daily.  Healthy […]