in the absence of perfection: love being perfectly imperfect

in the absence of perfection: love being perfectly imperfect

Perfection is one of those things that is so impossible to attain, and yet so many of us spend our lifetimes trying to attain it, even if to just a minor degree. Think of one thing in your life that you would love to snap your fingers and just instantly make it perfect – maybe […]

saving dependence in the midst of independence

saving dependence in the midst of independence

In light of Independence Day, the crowds along red-white-and-blue-strewn parade routes, the sparkling and boisterous fireworks displays, and the overabundance of picnic food most of us probably will serve as leftover lunches, sometimes I wonder if perhaps our quest for independence has gone too far. So much of life, from the time we are itty-bitty, […]

5 things we can all do to change the world today

5 things we can all do to change the world today

It feels like the events of the last weeks are just too much – the tragedy in Orlando where 49 lives were cut way too short and countless more were affected instantaneously, the horror in Istanbul where men carry bombs dressed up in luggage and weapons for killing innocent lives without pause for human life but […]

embrace the shadows: learning to live in the Light

embrace the shadows: learning to live in the Light

Sometimes it is so much easier to keep running.  To just put one foot in front of the other, foot past foot, sometimes more quickly and sometimes barely shuffling.  Racing from activity to sports to church to grocery store and back again, even when racing might not be necessary. Sometimes it is just easier to […]

marriage is hard, even on the best of days

marriage is hard, even on the best of days

This week marked our 9th wedding anniversary, and the 12th year that Husband and I have been together.  Our marriage has been beaten up and battered, rebuilt and reborn a few times throughout these years… and it has been worth it, even the hard days and the best days. We’ve given up high-paying jobs, health […]

Father’s Day reflections: loving the imperfections

Father’s Day reflections: loving the imperfections

In each of our minds, especially on a day like Father’s Day, there is probably a mental picture to describe the title of Dad or Father or Grandpa or whatever other name can be bestowed upon the pre-eminent male figure in your life. Maybe your memory is of an amazing man who was the rock for […]

stop hiding: part 3 – what can be done

stop hiding: part 3 – what can be done

The mass murder in Orlando this past weekend created a ripple effect of its horror upon the LGBTQ community and their families, as well as upon the rest of us who, if not related to the victims, look on in shocked fear at how easily and quickly such a tragedy of huge proportions can occur, even […]

stop hiding: part 2 – the crisis that lurks within

stop hiding: part 2 – the crisis that lurks within

The simple fact of the matter is that there is a crisis that has been building under the fragile skin of society that has barely been addressed, much less publicly voiced.  Because too many of us are too afraid to say anything out loud.  I’ve been one of those people too, but can’t be any longer. […]

stop hiding: part 1 – what good is hiding in fear

stop hiding: part 1 – what good is hiding in fear

It’s time to stop hiding. It’s time to stop hiding in the darkness, away from the Fear that can so easily entangle and control and manipulate strong hearts and souls into thinking that there is no Hope. It’s time to stop hiding from the darkness that so quickly envelops our lives when mass tragedy and […]

tearing down the walls of fear: loving first

tearing down the walls of fear: loving first

My three young daughters are still big fans of the Disney movie Frozen.  So the music is often floating around our house daily, with little girl voices belting out the lyrics and little feet twirling around the furniture.  It’s amazing how quickly the words get stuck in my head and refuse to budge.  But that’s not entirely bad. […]